My advice is simple: if you want to be a happy person, you have to find your purpose in life.
Now, I know that finding a purpose is not exactly easy. It may take decades for you to find your purpose, but once it’s done, you’ll feel at ease. You’ll be able to determine your main priorities and other little things won’t bother you anymore. Whenever you feel your life is coming to a crossroads, that purpose will help you decide what your next move will be. You’ll know the direction you need to walk towards and that will put your heart at ease. Overall, you’ll be a happier person because of it.
But how do find the purpose of your life? The process of searching for it is a slow and confusing one, so you’ll have to be patient. You need to ask yourself questions–like why do you exist? What do you want do with your life? One mistake people often make here is trying to answer such questions all by themselves. Sometimes looking for the answers around us is a wise thing to do. So, talk to other people. Ask them what they think about life and their goals. Try to listen to them with an open mind, even if you don’t like their answers. See what philosophers, religious and non-religious people have to say about life. After looking at the question of life from so many angles, you’ll be able to determine your purpose. And if you already know your purpose, listening to different people will only help you strengthen your belief in it.
Once you find your purpose, try to work towards it with patience and optimism. If you aren’t accepted into your dream university and this makes you doubt your ability to achieve your purpose, think about all those people around the world who didn’t even complete school because they didn’t have the money. There is always someone less fortunate than you. Thinking like this makes you feel grateful and helps you get through tough times. Also, remember that there are several ways to achieve a goal. If one doesn’t work for you, you can always try another. Always be hopeful.
One last thing I’d like to say to you is look for happiness in the little things. You don’t need fame, a huge house, an expensive car or designer clothes to feel happy. Be happy with what you have. Happiness for me is when my parents smile, when my friends laugh, when I cook something and it actually tastes nice, when my cat sits on my lap, and when I finish long-procrastinated work. I hope you, too, will find happiness in the little things.
P.S. If you’re feeling down right now, here’s a picture of my cat who has heart-shaped nostril. Hopefully it will cheer you up. Good-bye for now, and good luck with finding the purpose of your life!